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The first of our 3-part series on the discussion of female self-love…

Self-love… female masturbation… polishing the pearl… whatever your preferred phrase, can something that provides so many people around the world so much harmless pleasure really be considered taboo?

In the year 2017 can it really be possible that forward thinking adults still squirm at the thought of female self-love? In this expanding “share everything” culture that we live with why is female masturbation one of the select few topics that is still kept under wraps?

No one bats an eyelid at the daily references to, and jokes about, male masturbation that are all over popular western media. So is this another double standard being perpetrated against women? If so, why? Vibrators and dildos of all shapes, sizes and colours are easily available. Moreover the fast growing market for female-centric sexual aids and stimulants constituting a significant contribution to the sex health industry.

Why talk about Female Self-Love?

Talking about female masturbation will help to bring the discussion out into the open. Such discussion will teach the next generation that there should be no shame or stigma attached to a woman pleasuring herself.

It simply isn’t acceptable that in 2017 there can be young adults who feel shame and revulsion over their natural desires. We should be teaching women to love themselves and their desires, not be repulsed by them. Women should always seek to feel empowered and shouldn’t feel unable to openly discuss body issues or sexual issues because of outmoded attitudes.

Masturbation helps women to feel in control and empowered. Through masturbation women feel able to satisfy their needs and feel good from the flood of neurochemicals that comes from the physical act of masturbation. Dr. William Kolbe, author of The Rejuvenating Power of Masturbation says the female orgasm stimulates the brain and results in heightened self-esteem. According to Dr. Kolbe, “Self-love enables people to accept themselves and know themselves sexually, ultimately producing deep and lasting sentiments of contentment, gratification, and joy.”

Anyone will agree that knowing your own body is healthy and the best way to make sure you can pick up on any unusual signs. Isn’t exploring your body the best way to get to know it? While you’re at it there’s no reason you shouldn’t have any fun, right? Getting to know your body isn’t only good for your health. Self-love also helps you to learn more about your sexual likes and dislikes. How can you expect anyone else to please you sexually if you don’t know what you like yourself?

It’s important for girls and women to know that masturbation is not only for the other sex. They should know that they can engage in it without any fear that it is “unladylike” or has any other negative baggage attached to it. Instead of being seen as some mysterious thing that no one wants to talk about we should be encouraging women to know themselves and their bodies better.

What do you think about what we have discussed here today?

Do you think there is a lack of healthy discussion around female masturbation?

Let us know your thoughts!

Xo Spreadlove™

Kris Mulliah

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